As there is a running thread on the blog regarding Bullying I am starting a new Post.
In addition to aVeryPlainview, An excellent source for information would be:
http://nopobbullies.org/
where you will find experienced parents who have dealt with the school district on this subject.
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I sent an email to the contact address on that site but never heard back from them. Do they have someone checking the email over the summer? Who knows? Maybe they never got it. You never know with technology these days. I'd love to be involved with it.
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ReplyDeletealot of the bullying comes right from the home .Through my cildren ,I know parents of children who do bully other children . This bullying may not always rise to the point of alrming. My point is that alot of these parents are bullies themselves the way they treat other parents with their staredowns , rude behavior ,being pushy and demanding, the attitude like they live in brookville, and the list goes on and on. There are some of these parents that I have known for years and yet they walk past my family at a school event or sporting event with their nose stuck up so high it casts a shadow. Just ask someone about the girls plainview soccer league and what has happened there. This doesnt matter to me as I have my own friends and self confidence so I could care less because it is there loss not mine. The point is we have alot of rude parents and we wonder why some children in our community act the way they do. Examples are set right from home.
Parents find it much easier to just blame the teachers and administrators instead of just looking in the mirror!!!! Parents need to do their job as parents and set good examples. But, they keep compaining... how sad. It is clear that many people who are respnding to these comments and in this town do not want to make solutions and help eachother... very sad!
ReplyDeleteI want to thank Ed & Suzala, You both are doing a great job, I do enjoy this blog and I appreciate your efforts.
The responsibiility for the school environment rests squarely on the school administrators not the parents. Parents are responsible for their childs behavior. The school should have a zero tolerance for breaking rules(i know they claim to). Why is is that when Pick up my child at jfk during the day I can see kids smoking right at the school property line . Are the administrators that blind or they just dont care ? And if the kids keep getting into trouble then the detention , suspension, and expulsion should be stiffer so much that the kids would be afraid to do anything. The trouble kids are a small percentage of the population of our schools
ReplyDeleteThe suburbs are about conformity. It's always been that way. If you differ from the perceived majority, even only slightly, Plainview can be a very difficult place. The children are simply playing out what they've learned from their environment. It starts at home but the influences also come from other places. Many teachers, not all, share these suburban values. Kids are often heavily influenced by their peers. The library, stores, restaurants, synagogues, churches, just about anywhere you go, you'll find it. A lot of people don't want to speak up for fear of being labeled difficult or simply not fitting in so many problems go unsolved. For me, I try to stay focused on the few I've met here who are either willing to stand apart or don't make snap judgements against those of us who do. I like the fact that Suzala is unselfishly giving the community this opportunity to anonymously share our thoughts.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with your asessment of Plainview which is very much like other towns . What I see as the conformity is actually the lack of guts and willpower to change things . It is very sad that people are unwilling to step up to the plate and say something. That is the very reason why the administrators get away with the lack of accountablility, The fiscally reckless BOE gets away with what they do, and why the school atmosphere is intimidating to some children. What I try to teach my children is to speak up to make a differnce and not just go with the crowd. I have gone to board meetings and have spoken up and I know people cast myself as well as others who speak out as trouble makers , whackos , etc .
Thank you so much. I agree that pressure of conformity breeds community inaction. It's also possible that people are fine until things happen to them personally. If you bring problems to their attention, you might be threatening their sense of satisfaction to be in Plainview with its perceived status and high taxes. Rather than face the fact that Plainview, like everywhere else in the world, has its shortcomings too, it's easier to just label the messenger a troublemaker or whacko as you say. Sad, but it's not going to change. Hopefully people reading this who are afraid to speak up will reconsider as this blog definitely shows that although disagreements understandably ensue at times, it's rare that anyone is totally alone in whatever their issue or issues might be.
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